Semua orang nak anak jadi baik. Jadi pandai. Jadi macam macam yang bagus.

Semua orang nak anak jadi baik. Jadi pandai. Jadi macam macam yang bagus.

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Tapi kadang kadang cara buat kita tak berapa kena.

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Semalam saya terdengar perbualan ayah anak. Masa tu saya berdiri sebelah dia orang. Nak lintas jalan.

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Si ayah macam tak puas hati sikit pada anak dia. Saya perasan sebab nada suara dan memek muka dia macam marah.

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Si anak ni mungkin sekolah Tahun 5 atau 6. Saya agak saja. Tengok dari saiz badan dia. Budak ni tunduk saja.

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“Kau tengok makcik pakai baju merah tengah sapu tu. kalau kau malas belajar kau jadi macm tu lah.” Kata si bapa sambil tunjuk ke depan.

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Saya pun pandang ke depan. Ada makcik Cleaner baju merah sedang dok mop lantai.

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Kesian dan sedih pun ada dengan kaedah si ayah didik anak. Bukan dia seorang saja yang buat macam ni. Ramai. Ini pun bukan kali pertama saya dengar ayat begini.

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Bukan tak boleh nak bandingkan. Boleh cuma banding dengan yang lebih baik. Itu lebih bagus.

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Banding cara si ayah hanya akan sebabkan si anak pandang rendah pada orang lain. Secara tak langsung yang ditanam dalam minda anak ialah sisi negatif kerja cleaning.

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Macam mana sepatutnya?

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Contohnya boleh saja sebut macam scene poster sebelah kanan.

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Si ayah boleh sebut “ kalau Danial study dan jadi pandai, Danial boleh tolong ramai orang. Boleh tolong macam makcik kat depan tu. Danial boleh jadikan dunia ni menarik untuk ramai orang.”

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Bila ayah sebut macam ni, dia letakkan nilai yang berbeza pada anak. Study pandai bukan kerja bagus saja. Biasanya inilah nilai yang cuba ditanam dalam minda.

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Tetapi sekarang berbeza. Study pandai dapat beri manfaat pada orang lain. Nilai membantu diletak bersama dengan nilai belajar. The Law of Association ialah pandai = baik atau jadi pandai dapat beri kebaikan.

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Ramai saja orang yang pandai tapi jadi individualistik. Pandai tapi beri midarat pada masyarakat.

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Berbalik pada kaedah kedua.

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Si ayah juga beri ruang pada anak masuk ke minda kreatif si anak. Dia akan mula bina movie mind bagaimana bentuk dunia yang menarik. Bagaimana pula dunai menarik ni dapat tolong orang ramai.

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Apa yang berlaku dalam otak si anak bila kreatif sangat menarik. Otak bahagian Frontal Lobe akan jadi sangat aktif. Seperti pertunjukan bunga api sedang berlaku dalam otak.

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Frontal Lobe akan berhubungan terus dengan hippocampus – pusat memori. Selongkar dan cari makna yang tersimpan di sini.

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Bahagaian otak yang proses memori berkaitan skil dan how to do things seperti Basal Ganglia juga jadi aktif. White matter yang hubungkan bahagian otak berbeza juga jadi sibuk. Mulakan hubungkan setiap bahagian dengan lebih pantas dan cekap.

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Itulah yang berlaku. Mesej simple si ayah jana minda kreatif si anak.

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Saya percaya tema teman yang baca ni suka anak jadi kreatif. Auka anak berfikir jauh ke depan. Bangga anak yang suka bantu orang lain dengan ilmu dan skil yang dia ada.

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Bolehlah cuba. Besar manfaatnya. Kita cuma perlu kaitkan perkara baik (study) dengan satu perkara baik (bina kehidupan baik untuk orang lain).

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Boleh boleh?

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#DrRizal

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Everyone wants their children to be good. Be smart. So kind of nice.

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But sometimes the way we do it is not very good.

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Yesterday I heard the conversation of the father of the child. At that time I was standing next to him. Want to cross the street.

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The father seemed a little dissatisfied with his son. I noticed because the tone of his voice and the pussy on his face looked angry.

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This child may be in Year 5 or 6 school. Look at her body size. The boy is just submissive.

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“You saw my aunt wearing a red shirt in the middle of the broom. if you are lazy to study you will be like that. ” The father said while pointing forward.

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I looked ahead. There was an aunt in the red shirt cleaner who was docking the floor mop.

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There is also sadness and sadness with the method of the father educating the child. He is not the only one who does this. Many. This is not the first time I have heard a sentence like this.

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Not that I can’t compare. Can only compare with the better. That’s better.

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Compare the way the father will only cause the child to look down on others. Indirectly what is planted in the child’s mind is the negative side of cleaning work.

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How should it be?

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For example, you can mention the poster scene on the right.

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The father can say “if Danial studies and is smart, Danial can help many people. Can you help me like my aunt in the future. Danial can make this world interesting for many people. ”

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When the father says something like this, he puts different values on the child. Smart study is not just a good job. Usually this is the value that is trying to be planted in the mind.

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But now it is different. Smart study can benefit others. The value of helping is placed along with the value of learning. The Law of Association is good = good or so good can give good.

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Many people are smart but individualistic. Clever but give a damn to the community.

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Turning to the second method.

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The father also gives space for the child to enter the child’s creative mind. He will start building a movie mind how to shape an interesting world. How can this interesting world help people.

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What happens in the child’s brain when creative is very interesting. The brain of the Frontal Lobe will be very active. Like a fireworks show going on in the brain.

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The Frontal Lobe will be in direct contact with the hippocampus – the memory center. Search and find the meaning stored here.

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The parts of the brain that process memory related skills and how to do things like Basal Ganglia are also active. White matter that connects different parts of the brain is also so busy. Start connecting each part faster and more efficiently.

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That is what happened. The father’s simple message generates the child’s creative mind.

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I believe the theme of friends who read this likes children to be creative. Auka child thinks far ahead. Proud child who likes to help others with the knowledge and skills he has.

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Please try. Great benefits. We just need to associate good things (study) with one good thing (build a good life for others).

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Can I?

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#DrRizal